There are motives for everything. Juxtaposed against the backdrop of advantageous endeavor, people leverage and jockey for position all the time, and often it’s at the behest of the aforementioned friendship. Do you believe that people come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime? Author Jean Dominique Martin when gathering information for her mindset on this subject, said it best by leaving lasting impressions that give homage to the fickle nature of misplaced intent when it comes to options in choosing friends.

Now that I have your attention, I ask you: what does friendship mean to you? How well do you choose who would be your closest allies? There are reasons why people are essential in our lives, and is the basis for me writing this essay. In a way, this is my way of paying homage to my constituents and friends who have stuck closer to me, despite my flaws!

I have mixed emotions about people that have come and gone in my life, though…there were those who left because the level of intimacy was based on unbalanced time-sharing and other reasons for not maintaining something that could stick and stay. What bothers me more is when their mannerisms change, they become incognito, and make themselves scarce once they feel that things are not conducive to their train of thought as opposed to seeing how the friendship can be saved for the long term.

Yes, people have motives that they tend to hold close to vest and out of your sight. Now comes the time for me to assess those that fit this category. I’ve always felt that when you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person. You will not be caught unawares because you are alert, aligned and less arrogant. Check my logic out here why people come into your life either for a reason, a season or a lifetime.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be.

Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die, or fade into anonymity. Sometimes circumstances dictate that they go in another direction leaving you to wonder; sometimes they walk away, uncaring and unwilling. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand, hoping that enmity hasn’t reared its ugly head.

But when amity is afoot there can be no doubt where good intent fuels the art of reaching out. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. Reasons can go against you…but when it does, all you can do is assess it for what it’s worth, monitor subsequent correspondences, make your decision and know when it's time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON. They may only be there for a short period of time based on premeditated agendas; they may have motives that are not condoned by you, or because your turn has come to share with them in growing or learning new initiatives for the future. If all things are good, they may bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh.

They may introduce you to new routines and techniques that you have never experienced. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real! But only for a season -- they move on. Seasonal tidings with this situation usually deal with those that are going through changes, can’t cope with certain situations that cause them to step outside of comfort zones, or are unwilling to take chances.

Other seasonal folk readily recognizes their own kind, and will not hesitate to cut you loose. The key to coming full circle after misunderstandings may have caused a rift is to humble yourself, accept that perhaps you could have done something better and move on. if it's meant to be they will return, if not then it just wasn't meant to be....

LIFETIME relationships are harder to recognize for the moment, but with time can be the best choice you can make. But how many people do you know are willing to persevere for the long haul? Find one and I guarantee you will have him or her as someone trustworthy.

Life timers teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. They accept you for what you are, do not prematurely judge you, do not have any inhibitions about taking chances for the betterment of the relationship, and surely feel that compatibility is something that is assessed as you go, not at the spur of the moment. They don't adhere to conditions and will be there during the zero hour. There’s GOT to be something that you can learn from this type of person.

Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. This is Agape Love at it's core..the type of love that God is. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. Silence doesn’t suppose to be as ominous to cut deep like the sharpest knife. To be cut loose dangling trying to fathom how it went south is to understand that directional change does not have to be defined by ill winds and misplaced logic, but by common sense and discernable options working for the best.

I thank all the people I’ve met in my lifetime who have lent me their ears, allowed me to belong, gave me love and let me love them back. I’m all the better because somewhere, somehow, and someone have given me hope that friendship is not fleeting, integrity is intrusive, and that good intent coupled with works can be a true embodiment of comraderie for as long as it is deemed necessary to embrace a true friend! And for those that I’ve called a friend at some point in my life, you will always be one…but know that you will not be forgotten.

This is why as I write, I look to all whom have given me the wherewithal to be me. I love my literary Diaspora and the people in it who gave me hope and felt that to write the vision and make it plain. There are too many of you to name, but a few readily come to mind -

If your name is not on this list, don't hold it against me but Know that I know you know who you are! All I want are lifetime friends where reciprocal value is measured in a platonic way.

People grow through experience if they meet life honestly and courageously. This is how character is built....

All of us experience change in our lives. Change is the one constant in our lives. There are changes that we look forward to and change that we fear. However, one thing is for sure. Things will not stay the same no matter how much we would like them too.

When a life change occurs, we have two choices in how to respond. We can despair that a change has come and assume that things will be worse, or we can look with excitement at the new possibilities that the change presents. memories are life experiences hardship, sadness and happiness is part of it memories are kept it our mind no matter what it still there on our mind some memories are sweet some are not memories is our life journey every step we take is part of our memory memories are beautiful event happening in our life its like our mini movie...

In this world we are all human we are all intitled to commit mistakes and have a chance to learn and grow and make them better. As I sit here and think about you and what you and I have been though, I see that I can only love you more and more every day. You're my inspiration each and every day. You are what keeps me going when I just want to give up. You are my meaning for life and love. I love the way that you love me. I wouldn't know what to do if I didn't have you.

You're my dream come true and I only want you in my life and  Please my love, from the bottom of my heart to the height of my will, I confess my everlasting love for you and hope you will respond likewise.

My wish for you is that you could feel all the passion and love that I carry around in my heart and soul for you. You have won my love and soul. You have gotten it all, even my heart. You make me feel like I am in heaven in the arms of an Angel. I'm sorry I've been so damn moody lately.

I'm sorry I've been so damn bitchy and keep hanging up on you.  I do love you with all my heart, I'm just so afraid to be hurted, the feelings I do have for you Lara are real and  I dont wanna wake up one day and you're not going to be there I'm worried that you've been a dream for the time we've been together. I love you with all my heart please tell me we'll never grow apart.

Please forgive me for all the hurt that I have caused you in the past I love you and I always will until I die. Hopefully, when that day comes, I will still have you by my side and you will be that last angel face I see. I will be able to hold you in my arms and tell you how much I love you and how much you really mean to me. If you only knew that there is a true love waiting for you. One that will never die or grow tired.

It has been so very long, but I still remember everything. I miss your kiss and the way you made me feel so safe. I never thought we would ever be apart like this, but now it's been way too long. I just want to hear your voice. I miss the way you could hold me so tight.

I know our life together has not been perfect, but that's just the way life goes. The way I feel for you doesn't go away. but still everyday I wake up dreaming of our time together and I hope you still think of me too. I love you with all that I am, all that I was and all that I will ever be.

I want to spend every second of my life with you, but unfortunately we will have to wait for that to be a possibility. I promise that you won't regret waiting because i will always love you more than any other person could love you and i mean it. So wait for me while i'll wait for you. Believe me your very devoted You are at my heart, dearest nothing in the world can be nearer to me than you!

Right now I wish I could be with you and spend every moment with you, I think about you all day and everyday, I cant let you go,for in my mind you will always stay. I love you so much, more than you could ever think. I love the way you say you love me back. I dream of you when I sleep.

I send my love to you, and you send yours to me. all the love you send me I will forever keep. I would break down and cry if I ever lost you, your my everything, my soul, my heart, my body and strength. I would die without you and that's not all I'd do.

I can never let you go, and my love you know its true. together forever and ever. and i love you so much and that's all i know. Not having you here with me is tearing me up inside, but I can't stop thinking about you no matter how hard I try. You know how I feel about you, and I know I want to spend the rest of my life with you, but it's so hard to do when I can't even be next to you. Why does it gotta be so complicated?

Loving you feels so right, but at the same time, knowing you can't be here right now with me you keeps me awake at night. I just want this to be simple, I just want you here with me, to look into your eyes, be held in your arms...then I'd truly be happy. Right now this distance between us is out of our control, but I'm still hoping one day soon, I'll get what I'm wishing for.

My love the sadness that we feel, is just a moment in time, and once we are together again the pain shall heal. no matter what i do during the day, my thoughts are with you where they stay. I listen to our songs , i think of the love and laughter, and the nights are unbearably long. and no matter where you may have to go, my heart will always light your way home. so be at peace my love , for the love in my heart glows brightly for you here.

Just think to the day when we shall never have to part , and of the love we have shared from the very start. know that soon we shall never have to go alone to bed, for the day is dawning near when we shall be wed. so until that time love, just look to the stars up above. for our two hearts glow, with a powerful love we shall never let go, I love you so much why cant you see that.

My only true love Lara through the days we're apart, remember you're my everything and more, never forget what waits for you, and who my love is for I love the way you loved me with your inner feelings you took me to the world beyond our imagination and showed me love is to be loved you are a gift of my soul that never fly away from my heart even a bird in the nest has her partner in the nights but i am without you so many nights with painful tears today, so much i miss you day by day and night by night dreams come and go but our love here is to stay in reality no matter what happens in my dream but life without you is nothing but shattered dreams you are my beautiful love...

Today I sat and thought, with every breath I took, of only you. I remember when we first got together like it was yesterday. Two people in two different worlds Today, you are so far away and I'm not being able to hold you, kiss you, or even able to tell you I love you every day, as we go through the hardest thing we have ever had to go through Yes, I miss you and can't wait till you come home to be able to wrap my arms around you and hold you close to my heart. Days go by and nights get longer. It makes me stronger and stronger. I just want you to know that I will be here as long as it will take one thing I want you to know is I love you and you will forever be in my heart.

My sweetest sweet, my dearest dear, my trust and hope and my freedom of all fears, always my love, no matter how far or how near... How can I tell you what I'm feeling when sometimes, I don't even understand myself? I wish things were perfectly wonderful  in our lifes, But we're going to have to work at it to make them that way.

I do believe we have so much to build on… our memories and our love most of all. I may not always understand why we have problems, or exactly how to make our relationship stronger, but I care enough to want us to try to find out.

When the world closes in and lies so heavily upon you, remember - I care. When love seems to only bring you pain, remember - I care. What cannot be, cannot be, but always, remember - I care. Never be afraid to come to me if you have need of the simplest thing! No matter what it is, remember - I care.

Do you know how blessed I am that you are in my life not a day goes by when I do not think of you You make everything alright to you I do not have to prove myself For you know me I love you

How honoured I am to be a part of yours Memories made and shared With you the one I love My friend, my lover, my queen'Til the end So when we're apart, and you long for me near Just try to remember, you're already here For deep in my heart, where no one can see You'll be forever, together we'll be You, with all your savoring sweetness, tenderly pierced the walls of my soul
as you wove a new tapestry with the golden threads of your hope and love.

Yesterday you offered me courage, today you endowed me with your strength, a gift. Every day a celebration of life. How lovely the music of your heart. You are the air I breathe, sound I hear and the spirit that gently moves me. I don't wish for the moon, I have the stars.

My only love  I don't think anyone understands the burden I carry in my heart day by day ... until I am once again with you. I am hopelessly in love with you, devoted to being with you. May God reunite us very soon.

I am very hopeful that God will lead me us soon together again,  My first true love, I hope you feel the same, because it would be so much worse if I was lost in this feeling alone, without you to share it with and to share the thought of us being together again.  I am sorry for all the bad moments and want to make up for all our time apart. I love you,

I think I'm just a courageous dreamer about all this between me and you, to be really honest I dont know who you are and what you really want from me? I have read all your sms from that day until now and what I can tell you is I'm quite confused after all.

I never knew I could feel so much pain, and yet be so in love with the person causing it. Lara I could fill a thousand pages telling you how I felt and still you would not understand.

Unconditional love is a beautiful thing.. untill the person you love unconditionally doesn't love you anymore..  Only then do you realize how much you loved that person and how much you have done and suffered and been through  just to show that you love that person... now all seems worthless.. You hurt me more than I deserve, how can you be so cruel? I love you more than you deserve, why am I such a fool?"

Every moment I spent by your side, I felt a stab within my heart ...  as I come to realize that the tears that fall from my eyes are truly the blood from my broken heart.

Life so damn unfair having the love of your life leave you by sending a sms and here I am standing with thousands of unanswered questions and I wish you best of luck in life?  is like your dog dying and your mom saying you can still keep it!

I know you don't feel my 100% love for you... I know you don't feel that I care for you... I know you don't feel that I need you...  but only if you just know, it really hurts when you really love the person so much but then, you don't even feel it... :(

Every day which passes in my life I stare upon an empty space I only see your face regrets of things we didnt do shall never leave my mind we reached, and grasped at things we could not have and forgot the things we did  No words of love can mend this now The past is long behind Be ever there in my dreams but never in my prayers

For you love another I shall not My heart shall not forgive True love is not how you forgive, but how you forget, not what you see but what you feel, not how you listen but how you understand, and not how you let go but how you hold on. Sometimes I wish I had never met you because then I could go to bed at night not knowing there was someone like you out there. Always remember never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option.

Real tears are not those that fall from the eyes and cover the face, but those that fall from the heart and cover the soul. The worst thing is holding on to someone who doesn't want to be held on to. I will never regret loving you, only believing you loved me too. I always knew looking back on the tears would make me laugh, but I never knew looking back on the laughs would make me cry.

You broke my heart and you never knew. Just how much I really love you...